If you’re sick of dyeing your hair , but going grey is scary in so many ways…
You need to join us for:
To Grey Or
Not To Grey
Decide once and for all whether to keep dyeing your hair or to go grey.
Discover how YOU want your hair as you age.
Ditch grey-shaming cultural influences so whatever you decide, it’s your decision.
Step forward with a community of peers supporting your clarity to keep dyeing or to go grey!
It’s the midlife dilemma that we know all too well.
To grey or not to grey requires us to free ourselves from anti-aging, media-fueled bullshit in order to make a decision that comes from within.
Decide to grey or to keep dyeing. Either way we support you - we just want your choice to come from your actual inner truth!
No more stress about what to do for your hair color.
Actual excitement for next steps to grow the grey out, OR deep peace to keep dyeing because it comes from what you want rather than external pressure.
Freedom from what others think about your hair.
Feeling like a goddess about your hair, rather than stressed and tired about it all.
Walkin’ around in the world feeling like yourself again. Because you’ve consciously chosen this new version of yourself, whether you go gray or not.
Not only free from what others think, but cheered on by your To Grey Or Not To Grey group to stand firmly in your own beliefs and desires about your hair.
The familiar vicious cycle for so many of us:
Ugh, time to spend all the time and money to touch up my hair color.
Can’t believe I have to do this every month. Aging is such a bitch.
And it’s never quite the same as my original color.
But if I don’t dye it, the grey roots will start to show…
And if I grow out the grey, I will look OLD.
And ugh, I don’t want others to see me that way, much less see myself that way.
But I am soooo tired of dyeing my hair.
And it’s not like this will stop, this is for the rest of my life.
Maybe I should just let it grow out?
I wish I could just have my original hair color back.
It was so simple then.
But it’s never coming back.
Ugh, time to spend all the money and time to dye my hair” (Vicious cycle begins again)
It’s a big freaking decision to go grey or to keep dyeing.
It affects how you perceive yourself.
How others perceive you.
How you’re treated in society.
But one thing is clear:
The real answer comes from your inner truth when you strip away all external messaging.
Each of us deserves:
To choose to grey or not to grey from a place of joy and love for ourselves and what we want.
(Rather than from social conditioning or worry about what others will think)
Let’s get you clear on your decision and support you in it!
If you choose to go grey...
Feel not only truly at peace with growing out your grey, but actually excited about it.
Have an army of amazing midlife women cheering you on as you grow your grey out while navigating friend, family and cultural responses, plus your own reactions as your grey grows.
If you decide to keep dyeing your hair…
Dye your hair from a place of joy and true desire, rather than from fear about how the world (and you) will perceive you with grey hair.
Have an army of amazing midlife women celebrating your clarity, and your decision to keep dyeing your hair because it’s what YOU want.
Power isn’t in the color of your hair.
It’s in who decided.
So, a moment of truth.
Before you scroll any further, take a deep breath.
Ask yourself:
How much of my energy has been tangled up in hair dye, aging fears, and other people’s opinions?
What if I could drop all that noise, make my choice, and feel damn good about it — grey or not?
If your body just sighed in relief… this incubator is calling you.
This isn’t about hair or which choice you make — it’s about reclaiming your right to decide who you are becoming.
Join To Grey Or Not To Grey
To Grey Or Not To Grey
4-Week Online Incubator
This incubator isn’t about judging dye or glorifying grey — it’s about helping you make your choice from power, not pressure.
End the exhausting back-and-forth about your hair. In this 4-week guided incubator, you’ll uncover your true desire. Whether that means embracing your silver or dyeing with joy, you’ll walk forward with confidence, clarity, and a community that has your back..
4 Group Zoom Sessions
Group sharing, activities, rituals, ceremonies and guidance to ditch grey-shaming cultural conditioning and choose to grey or not to grey from your own inner truth.
Action Pack
Digital journal to download, plus other goodies to support you to clearly the decision that is right for you.
Online Incubator
Log in to our incubator portal for discussion threads to connect and share between sessions. Be supported by others who understand your experience & cheer you on.
Session 1:
Feel the deep exhale of being seen — share your grey-hair story with women who get it, and feel your stress melt as you’re witnessed without judgment.
We’ll give cultural grey-shaming the middle finger — we’ll name it and release its grip for good so that we can each see the truth about what we want for our hair without external influence.
Session 2:
Silence the chorus of friends, family, and ads in your head so your own voice and choice can finally take center stage.
Gently grieve the loss of your original hair color so that you’re not stuck in the past and can move forward with clarity.
Session 3:
Get crystal clear on what you truly want for your hair — free from anti-aging pressure, cultural noise, or fear of being seen as “old.”
Speak your truth out loud and feel the power that comes when you express it without censoring or worrying about what others will think.
Session 4:
Claim your decision — to go grey or to keep dyeing — and feel the solid ground of owning it fully.
Celebrate with your sisters as you graduate into your new, unapologetically authentic look (and energy).
And The Mega-Cool Bonus…
Access To Our In-Person Summer Retreats
Whenever we have them. Typically it’s a day retreat in Boulder, Colorado once a year in a beautiful indoor space on wild land to roam.
Meet your Free Your Menopause sisters in-person, and deepen all that you’ve been cultivating in our Free Your Menopause programs. Your retreat ticket is free — just take care of food and lodging.
There’s nothing like in-person!
It’s optional, but oh babe, we really want you there.
Hi I’m Lisa, Your Guide
And boy have I been on a To Grey Or Not To Grey journey of my own!
At first I plucked my grey hairs, then when there were too many, I couldn’t bear the thought of no longer having that full head of rich brown hair, so I got into the dye cycle.
Dyeing did its job, but in my case I could never get it to fully match my old color. Plus the money, the time and the hassle - I really wanted to break free. But that meant coming to terms with going grey.
As an Interspiritual Minister with a specialty in major life passages, I applied everything that I knew about loss and change to create a personal process for myself - the exact process that we’ll do in To Grey Or Not To Grey - and finally got clear that, by my own desires, I wanted to go grey.
I went through the awkward growing-out phase and even had tri-color hair for a while. It was so silly looking that I had to give in and laugh at myself.
Now my grey is fully grown and I’m a salt and pepper grey with solid grey streaks on either side of my face. It has been a deeply enriching personal growth journey with soul-searching along the way.
And even though I decided to go grey, I fully support those who choose to color. The key is that its our CHOICE.
Sign Up Here!
You’ll emerge from the one-month incubator rocking a new freedom and self confidence because your choice to dye your hair or go grey will have zilcho to do with cultural shame or external pressure.
FAQ
Still wondering if To Grey Or Not To Grey is right for you? Here’s more info!
General FAQ’s
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Not directly — though side effects often include better sleep, more energy, and fewer stress-triggered flare-ups.
This isn’t a symptom-management or hormone-balancing course; it’s the inner work that makes all the difference in how you move through this phase.
When you stop fighting who you’re becoming, your whole system — body, mind, and soul — starts to relax.Perfect. You’re right on time.
Perimenopause is where this transformation begins — that hazy, “what is even happening?” stage where your body starts rewriting the rules.
Camp will help you understand what’s really going on beneath the surface, so you can walk this path awake and empowered instead of confused and isolated. -
No problem. Each group is small and cozy — max 10 women — so if you miss one, I’ll personally make sure you get the core experience and reflection prompts you need to stay in the flow.
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Totally fair — and no, you’ll never be pressured to share more than you want to.
Most women find that once they see how real and judgment-free this space is, they want to share.
There’s something magical that happens when you realize everyone else is navigating the same wild ride — and that you’re not crazy, alone, or broken. -
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Nope. You just have to be human — preferably a human woman in the throes of midlife transformation.
You’ll hear words like “rite of passage” and “sacred,” but there’s no dogma, religion, or belief system to sign onto.
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That nervous feeling? That’s just the edge of transformation.
If you’re reading this and feeling both a yes and an oh shit, that’s usually a sign you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.
And you’ll be met with total compassion here — no pressure, no perfection, just truth and connection. -
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To Grey Or Not To Grey FAQ’s
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Nope. It’s for any woman who’s ready to finally make a clear, self-honoring decision — whether that means embracing your natural grey or joyfully choosing to keep dyeing. You’ll be supported, celebrated, and respected either way.
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That’s okay. You’ll leave this incubator with clarity about what’s keeping you stuck — and a clear next step toward what feels most like you. Even if you don’t have a final answer, you’ll have freedom from the mental tug-of-war and a sense of grounded peace.
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You’ll join Lisa and a community of midlife women for four weekly Zoom gatherings filled with heartfelt conversation, ritual, and laughter. Between sessions, you’ll use your downloadable Action Pack to journal, reflect, and share inside the online discussion portal. Each week builds on the last, guiding you from cultural conditioning → personal clarity → confident choice → celebration.
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Then you’ll love this space even more. Because you’ll get to affirm that choice — from joy, not fear. Many women join thinking they’ll stop dyeing, only to realize what they truly want is to keep it… and to feel amazing about it.
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Totally normal. This process gives you a safe, supportive circle to explore those fears and move through them. You’ll be witnessed by women who get it — and often discover that your natural self feels more radiant than you expected.
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Nope — this is personal transformation disguised as a hair conversation. 😉 We’re not here to talk brands or techniques. We’re here to talk about freedom, self-permission, and how you want to show up in this next season of your life.
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We get it — it might look like a small choice, but this work goes far deeper. Most women realize this isn’t just about hair; it’s about identity, worth, visibility, and permission to evolve. Making peace here ripples into every area of your life — how you see yourself, how you show up, how you claim your next chapter.
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Never. This community is pro-choice about hair. We celebrate whatever decision you make — the whole point is that it’s your decision, free from pressure or shame.
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You’ll walk away with your decision anchored in confidence, peace, and sisterhood — and a process you can return to anytime you’re facing a change that asks for inner truth over outer noise.